A Word From Phil

Hello, I am writing this to clear some things up about Derin and her current state. First off, she does have cancer both in her blood and tumors on her ovaries she has also had a few gastro-intestinal issues. For anyone who feels the need to question this please don’t, some have even felt that they should be provided proof, for anyone who feels this way please feel free to disassociate yourself from us as that is an incredibly bad and undesirable attitude to have. I have heard that some people have questioned her illness because she ofter speaks of a new or different illness, well for those who don’t know what cancer is or anything about it, it can cause a lot of side effects. Derin also may say things that sound a bit contradictory because she is on some fairly serious meds and isn’t always fully aware of what she is saying. It has also come to my attention that some people have have been concerned and others angry that Derin has made some dismal sounding posts on her blog and facebook, ok again for those who haven’t heard cancer is a life threatening disease, who wouldn’t get depressed and Derin likes to express her feelings which can apparently be a bad thing in a word full of ignorant and hateful people. For anyone who is familiar with Derin’s sister Devin on facebook, please do not listen to anything she says about Derin, Devin has been extremely hateful and is a very unreliable source of information. If anyone is concerned about her and feels that they need more information please feel free to contact Derin or if you can’t get ahold of her you can contact me although be aware it is a depressing situation and I have a hard time talking about it. Finally for all who have been and are interested in being supportive of Derin, thank you, and we welcome your friendship, for those who don’t, as stated please feel free to disassociate yourself.

Thanks,

Phil H

Published in:  on February 4, 2010 at 7:17 am Leave a Comment

Living my Life my way

If any of you have a problem with me, my life or the decisions I make in my life delete me now! Don’t talk behind my back and with your eyes wide open in shock. Just leave! I don’t need you as a friend. Live your life and let me live mine in peace and happiness!!!!

Published in:  on February 2, 2010 at 2:50 am Leave a Comment

Addendum

I just want to add that if anyone has any questions about this blog content or me, please just ask me. I will answer any questions that I can.

Published in:  on January 31, 2010 at 7:37 pm Leave a Comment

Cancer Update

So I have been in the Hospital since Tuesday. It has been diagnosed that my tumors have grown too large and are putting too much pressure on my spinal cord and that is why I can’t walk or feel from my waist down. Today Phil and I made a decision to come home and wait out this illness. The Dr wanted to discharge me to a skilled nursing facility or a nursing home. I am scared to do that because we know that my time is becoming more limited on this earth and I would rather spend it surrounded by my friends and family.

Today I was thinking. I wondered how people will remember me when I am gone? Do you remember the last things we said to each other, or what is your favorite memory of us. I want to be a better person with what time the lord has given me. I know that there are a lot of people who I call my friends, and it is my strongest wish to spend as much time with everyone as I can. Please help me to do this. I am always happy to have company, and I love to make fun new memories.

My friend Lori in Craig has suggested that I make some sort with things that would be helpful for people to do for us. Everyone keeps asking me if there is anything they can do to help. I will list a few things. Also thank you so much to all the amazing people who have given us things or helped us with groceries, and bills. Money is very tight and those blessings are very much appreciated. THANK YOU!!!!

Some things that are helpful are someone to visit with me and let Phil have a break, Meals that we can freeze and cook, I hate being stuck at home so rides to get some air are nice. Anyway I am open to help and actually welcome it.

Things that I have learned this week: patience- having to wait for someone to help me just so I can go potty, eat drink and pretty much everything. Sock are dangerous for me unless they have non-slip bottoms(I fall easily). Hairy legs are gross and embarrassing but shaving them is out of the question. I have lost about 12 pounds in the week(hospital food really is YUCKY). I have more love and respect for Phil because he is doing everything. He cooks, cleans, gives me baths, and is still looking for a full-time job.

Well I rambled on enough. Please keep in contact and keep praying, I am not ready to go home yet. I love you all.-Derin 801-921-0166

Published in:  on at 5:19 am Leave a Comment

Life Keeps Going

I am living my life in the best way that I possibly can. I encourage you all to do the same. Life has given me so many difficult issues but for each one of those crappy things I have at least 10 great things in my life. Sometimes you just have to search deeper to find those. I know first hand how difficult of a task that can be. I am a firm believer that one should look inside to get through the tough times, but I have not always thought that. This week has seen so many ups and down, but on the advice of my sister I sought the right kind of help to deal with these issues, and I couldn’t be happier. Still sick but with a better attitude. (Thanks Vanessa) Search your lives and find what is the most important and make sure the people you love know that you love them. Live is short, live today like it’s your last-at least that is what I am doing. With Love-Derin

Published in:  on January 14, 2010 at 4:45 am Leave a Comment

Thank You

There have been a few of you who have sent me things and for that I am forever thankful. All the books, and cards, and gift cards and everything else have helped us so much. It is now January and we are out of insurance. So say lots of prayers that during this month that we have no coverage, and I can’t do treatment, that my cancer will not spread!!! PS Our lovely government funded medicaid which is supposed to help people in my situation, has so graciously declined covering me!!!! WHAT THE CRAP!!!!! RIGHT? Anyway thanks for all the help that has been coming, and is still coming in all different forms, emails and everything. This is the best support group on the planet.!!!! Love you guys!!!!

Published in:  on January 4, 2010 at 1:24 am Leave a Comment

Happy New Year

It is now 2010 WOW!! I remember all the chaos and craziness that went along with the “Y2K” crap. This year is either going to make us or break us. Depending on all the treatments and lifestyle changes I have to deal with I may live to see another year-Lord willing. I am trying to keep the faith that no matter what happens to us it will all be for the better and the Lord’s will.  I was lucky enough to be able to catch up with some amazing old friends over the last few days and it has brought great joy to my heart. These are the friends that were right next to me fighting my battle with me during the last cancer stuff. There are so many old friends that I hope to reconnect with in the coming weeks.

I wish you all nothing but the best for this New Year. I pray for your happiness and safety. Please know that as distant as we may become our hearts are always melded. Renew your relationships that have slipped away, and always seek to be that which has been planned for you. We Love you all and wish you a Happy New Year.Bring it on 2010!!!  Love and hugs from the Harvey’s to you!!!!

Published in:  on January 2, 2010 at 1:36 am Leave a Comment

Love is Eternal

Everyone who knows me knows that I LOVE quotes and song lyrics about everything and anything…. I wanted to share a few about love with you.

“Respect, admiration and trust equals love.” Hal Hartley
“Love gives us in a moment what we can hardly attain by effort after years of toil”. Goethe
“So dear I love him that with him, All deaths I could endure. Without him, live no lives.” William Shakespeare, “Romeo and Juliet”
“All you need is already within you, only you must approach your self with reverence and love. Self-condemnation and self-distrust are grievous errors. Your constant flight from pain and search for pleasure is a sign of love you bear for your self, all I plead with you is this: make love of your self perfect. Deny yourself nothing — glue your self infinity and eternity and discover that you do not need them; you are beyond”. Nisargadatta Maharaj


Published in:  on December 29, 2009 at 12:03 am Leave a Comment

Clarification

It looks like I need to clarify something. I am not asking for Hand-outs, just a support system. If I offended you in any way due to the way I worded things I am sorry. Yes finances are bad but I just need a support group!!!!!!!

Published in:  on December 28, 2009 at 6:30 pm Leave a Comment

Contact Info

Derin Harvey

PO BOX112
Santaquin, UTah 84655

801-921-0166
derinharvey@gmail.com

Published in:  on December 26, 2009 at 5:51 am Leave a Comment